GOOD STORY

oh ya~~i got below story from my colleague.Maybe many people read before,but this story really touch me.It is not easy to be a women~~if me,i don't think i can forgive my husband who betray on me.haha~~
below is the story >>>
(is a long story,so prepare a cup of tea and some cookies before u start reading) :)

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy.. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.This was the scene ten years ago.The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife.. But I couldn't help doing so.I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her.

At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry.. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this.I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled.

But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain.. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door.

I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce.. I'm serious.She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever.. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears.

I walked downstairs and drove to the office.When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.


So, Before Married, its only a lovely Dovey Love Birds.. But when after married, couple will share few love with their gift of love from what they are made.. its all about unselfishness and share thy BIG LOVE.. For me, there's nothing changes, its all about effort of being together and still can be very romantic when once knew of romance..

08 year's BirTHDAy

A small surprise on this years~~
My friend who stay in Aus msg & called me to wish me..thanks YY & Monkey

A little bit disappointment on this year~~
My friends who quite close to me last time, forget my birthday. I know it is nothing for some people, but for me, their wishes can make me happy on the day. OK~~fine!!maybe i should not request too much,since the one who very close to me is with me on tht day~~ :)

Anyway,i still had a wonderful Bday Celebration with my family & LE.... The present who gave by LE is abit~~~erm~~~surprise?cos is a perfume!!i never think he will give me perfume,haha!!

I like the color of the box-->BLUE
and the Bottle







I also got nail color present form my Sister..AHWEN

Let's check the color...
got BLUE also
I don think it look pretty on my nail.
I like Blue color but doesn't mean Blue nail color is suitable for me.
hmm~~~
I tried to apply on my nail, but it really look abit weired
The main point is-->i m not good to apply it wahaha


Anyway~~thanks my dear AHWEN & LE
oh ya~~my parents bought high heel for me & my fren SW also bought me a piece of cake & apple strudel.

Many Thanks to them~~~~

WHY IS ME??

As a customer service in my company, one of my responsibility is take booking from the customer.
Now, I realized something.
When there is something happened on the Booking, Customer Service are the FIRST one who should be blame.
I couldn't understand~~!!
WHY?
The mistake happened not because of me only.
But why they just push all the "sai" to us?
ok, I admit i should follow all the procedure, cos if i follow the procedure, this issues can be avoid. (this is what my HOD told me)
but~~~why?
the other department got wrong also.
They never admit is their mistake also. (however, the colleague who involve in this got say Sorry to me personally)
haih~~really disappointed..
am i really suitable for this job???

CoNtiNue!~~

Haha~~now only got time to continue my last blog.
Japan is a very nice place, especially when the lake, road and mountain full of snow! ^-^
I like snow~~~ok--should say i LOVE snow~~hooray!!>>>

sushi menu is behind me!

Oiishi~~~ ^-^
a very nice place to visit
A very big FERRY to Sado island
Inside the Ferry...

She is Soooooooo~~ CUTE!
Yeah>>
**Happy Birthday to my dearest sister**

The trip end with my sister's birthday :p

Japan~~i will c u again in next year!

忙碌的鼠年

呼～～～
15天的鼠年就在我還沒準備之下就結束了 (",)
今年，從年初一開始拜年至年初六，間中還去了新加坡慶祝情人節，約了大學時的老友一起走走、聊天，看見他們時，感到非常舒服。因為，真的很久沒和他們胡鬧了。哈哈！

可愛的表妹向我們拜個早年

親愛的表姐，祝你生日快樂

ED with the soup of the days...the taste not bad

My Valentine's Lunch, so Yummy~~~~

I am so fulled tht day, he ordered three main course + the soup... of cos, i only eat one meal, so the others had eaten by Mr ED -- he is reli Geng!

TONY---he is thinking what food shld eat- cos all the pic of the food in the menu look good :)

n the end she only ordered one drink & one French toast

很可惜的，這次忘了和Monkey (Dave)拍照。下次再遇他時應該是明年吧！

初七和初六，忙著工作和收拾日本的行李。
星期四晚的飛機，到日本時，已是星期五的早晨。
這次一共有33位行徒，加我姐和EE SIAN哥， 總數是35人。
OH YA！終於，見到了好久都沒見的大姐－說真的，她并沒改變很多，還是老樣子。

pearly, man man, me, ah ling & sally - b4 go into the plane

on the way to Japan, yeah!

Everyone is enjoying their breakfast which prepared by MyoEnJi Temple Hokeko Member

we are so Happy cos we will reach the destination soon

第一和第二天，我們在TOKYO，大石寺活動。在這兩天，我們只是參加儀式。TOKYO的天氣有些冷，大家的身上至少有三件衣服，才敢走出那暖暖的房間。沖涼后，一定要穿上襪子，不然，那地板會把我們的腳凍結。。。哇哈哈！第三天早上8點，我們又再次的出發。這次是前往新瀉[NIIGATA CITY]。從東京到新瀉須要7到8個小時的巴士。在途中，我們除了上廁所，吃，上巴士睡覺，就在沒其他事情可做。過了大約4個小時，這時大家都發現，一路上的風憬已轉換了。所有的河已結成冰，樹上已累積了雪，草地也被大雪蓋上了，對我們來說真是難得可見的情境。原本睡覺的朋友都開始積極的拍照起來。

GROUP PICTURES

MY dearest family - brother, me, sister, younger sister, papa n mama
pls look carefully on the FUJI MOUTAIN - it is so nice!

one of the stop before reach Niigata city
i like the view behind us

behind us was a lake before it cover by the snow

好啦，有些累了，明天再繼續。。。。。。hehe

FeBruaRy

Today...ok i shld say Yday is the 1st day of Feb..
I will be very busy in this month.
1st is the celebration of CNY
2nd Celebration of VTD (valentine's day)
3rd is the trip to Japan..
when i go bek to work shld be end of the month of Feb..
haha..SO SHIOK!!!

Finally me n my colleagues received a good news today which is we will get our BONUS on MONDAY!
HoOOORAAAy!
when i told my mum abt this news...she also feel very happy..
she said:"Yeah!!!you can return back money for me!"
i almost fainted when she told me like this..haha!
but is true..i reli need to give her back her money...
so i think half of my bonus will belong to her :)

I am BaCK!!!

oh yeah babe..i am back..haha!
從2007年5月至今，我已很久很久沒上來遊蕩了....好想念當年寫部落格的心情。
～～每當心情不好時，都會到部落格里把自己的悶氣發洩在部落格里（由於這是新的blog,所以都沒什麼內容)

好興奮咧！農曆新年就快到了，而我興奮的是因為我即將可以穿上自己辛苦賺錢所買的新衣。。。哈哈！很白痴吧！
雖然，大姐和小弟都因為讀書工作而不能回家過年，但在初九時，我們就能一家團聚的在國外過年了。

最後，希望這次能逗留久一些。。。